Today a question was brought to my attention… A friend of mine is interested in a man who recently went through a breakup. She could not help but judge him off his past, his ex. She dressed, spoke, and carried herself in a totally different manner, (let’s just say she wasn’t lady-like). Is it acceptable to judge a man, or woman by his or her past? Are exes a reflection of you?
Personally, I would answer yes and no. With each new relationship you should grow, and in most cases you will out grow people. My exes are reflections of my old mindset, my old interests, because at one time we did have something in common, something that attracted me to that person.
I believe that as we age we become wiser and we develop a standard of what we expect from a man or woman. After experimenting with the mishaps and regrets we will eventually make our way to someone who gracefully matches us.
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